We all possess a preconceived notion of what we consider success. We see big houses, nice cars, and nice clothes…and we think the one(s) that have any of those things must have a certain level of success.
One thing you must realize is that success is subjective to the individual.
A couple of days ago, I drove through several of the old neighborhoods that I lived in as a child. By the time I started high school, I had attended 13 different schools. My parents weren’t in the military.
I do this once in a while to remind myself of how much I have accomplished. To me, being able to finish my education and reach a certain degree of professionalism is successful. I don’t need a big house. I live in an apartment. I don’t need a brand new car. I drive my four year old car. I don’t need designer clothing. I purchase all of my clothing from clearance racks or certain thrift stores.
I can tell you this – my definition of success is simply being pleased with rising above my childhood and living a content life.
You have to define success for yourself. Other people might not agree with you. I could introduce you to people in my family that don’t agree with me. However, your definition of success is for YOUR life. Their opinion might be nice, but it’s just an opinion. What works for them may not work for you.
Don’t compare yourself to others. Don’t worry about what everyone else thinks is successful or what isn’t successful. That is something only YOU can decide for YOUR life.